A living, one-page brief. Synced Jul 22 to the v3 life strategy he signed Jul 21: the glance, the loop, the current protocol, three short topics, and the Jul 27 decision. Under ten minutes end to end.
The strategy went v3 on Jul 21. He read every rule live and re-based each one on what is actually true right now (nights at 5-6am, not the aspirational 2am), with his own agency on every number. The protocol below is the v3 version; the old 2am gate and phone dock are gone by his call.
Karla broke the silence, twice. A missed call Jul 17, then a call plus three texts Jul 19 ("I would like to tell you something"). Both unanswered; he has held zero contact since Jul 14, his longest hold in the whole arc. His Jul 27 lean has shifted to flowers plus a DM, and the form gets shaped in Friday's session. Detail in Karla + Jul 27.
He re-scored his life wheel Jul 21 as the honest baseline (average ~2.2). The scores are in the glance below; the Aug 15 re-score compares against them.
State at a glance
Work & moneyRESET
N5 closed; DJ floor, S.Chi Labs ceiling
$1,600 repaid + handoff delivered Jul 17; the daily send is the one metric
KarlaHOLDING, DAY 8
Ended Jul 14; she has reached out twice, unanswered
Jul 27 lean: flowers plus a DM, shaped in Friday's session
Body & sleepREBUILDING
Nights run to 5-6am; the gate restarts at its honest floor, 4am
His words: "I wake up and feel fucking cooked." The v3 gate below steps down from where he actually is
The wheel, scored by him Jul 21AVG ~2.2
Body 1 · Mind 2 · Soul 2 · Mission 3 · Money 2 · Growth 3 · Family 4 · Romance 0-1 · Friends 2
His own honest baseline, no shame attached; the Aug 15 re-score compares against these numbers.
The loop: the one thing under all three
The loop: no aim → unguarded evenings → games/porn to 6am → dead morning → no send or gym → no wins → games supply progression → money stays stuck → mission stays survival math → no aim.
Underneath: "if I show up as myself and I'm not enough, I'll be left" (mom died when he was 11). The loop creates respectable substitute work so the rejection-risky rep never happens.
The counter: the daily send is the exposure rep; the night gate is the mechanical cut; Cockpit, the 5am brief, and Tannoz are the witness stack.
All of the above is Sean's own formulation from his Jul 16 review, in his own words, brought here for you to test, not asserted as clinical fact. The send-as-exposure framing also replaces the old behavioral assignment from the IFS sessions (5 dials before 3pm), which by his own accounting went undone for 14 straight days; that non-completion is the data the redesign leans on.
The frame he resonated with hard on Jul 21 (now structural in his plan, worth testing with him):
1. Keep promises to yourself. The daily boxes are small promises, auto-scored so he cannot negotiate with himself at night. Every kept box is a confidence rep.
2. Standards over feelings. Every rule was decided in daylight by regulated Sean. When 2am Sean wants a vote, the standard already voted.
3. Identity over achievement. The score that matters (Total W's) can never go down. A bad day is data, not identity; single days are weather.
4. The sideline is the fear. Staying "full of potential" without trying protects the old identity. The daily send is the anti-sideline rep; being bad at outreach is proof he finally started.
The current protocol (v3, signed by him Jul 21, running now)
Night gate, at its honest floor. Lights out 4:00am, up by 12:00, this week. It steps down 30 minutes each week the current floor holds 5+ nights (3:30 next, then 3:00), targeting roughly 2-3am by late August. The phone stays with him, his call; the guardrails are grayscale plus app timers late at night, not a dock. Gig nights: lights within 45 minutes of getting home, wake within 8.5 hours, and that counts as a pass. No write-off days: after a 6am night, the day starts with the send whenever he is up.
The send, the one must-check box. One real money action per day before games: a send, an ask, a follow-up, a call. A day without it counts as lost no matter what else went right. New in v3: the send list is editable by him (his complaint was "too brain dead, no agency"); he can reorder, swap, or write his own top item, the machine just refills and pre-drafts. Drafting never counts; sent counts.
Six-box day, scored 5 of 6. Night gate, morning launch, the send, movement, clean dopamine, and a night voice note. Auto-judged from real data, not self-report. Not 6 of 6 on purpose: his own read is that one miss turning into a full reset was the actual failure mode.
Body. 4-5k steps daily to start, auto-counted, plus gym 4-5x per week around 2pm, his dead-hour window. Gig days and days his watch marks red for recovery are skipped by design, not failed.
The reward stack, all three real. Every Won Day flags $10 of real cash toward a visible Medellin account, approved at the Sunday ritual. Game time is currency: earned after the send, 2 hours base, +1 hour on a Won Day. And a buy-list ladder of real things he wants, priced in Total W's, which never reset.
Escalation, softened by his call, you are the witness. A Karla contact attempt outside the plan, three lost days in any seven, or a non-gig night reaching 6am: he saves the scoreboard screenshots for the next session with you. The 72-hour reset happens only if he and you agree it helps; plan edits hold until that conversation.
The mom / Gaia containers. The lock-screen line ("Hand of Gaia. Mom is in everything alive; I move things for her."), a photo of his mother by the desk, and a weekly ten-minute rep helping one other ADHD person. His standing rule: anything about his mother that gets heavy routes to you, not to a productivity system. Named by him as grief work.
Topic 1 · Money & work
N5 is closed and the decision that used to eat these sessions is gone. What remains is simple: DJ is the floor (booked weddings, largely autopilot), S.Chi Labs is the ceiling (his own web agency, mornings), and the one metric is asks sent per day, not pages built.
The Nick closeout, done. Jul 13, a clean 63-minute call; Nick pulled the SDR offer, friendship intact. As of Jul 17 the $1,600 is repaid in full (funded by a wedding deal closed that day) and the systems handoff is delivered. The chapter is closed with nothing owed and the friendship whole.
The live work question. Not which vehicle, but whether the daily send actually happens. The known pattern is building around the send instead of sending; the protocol above exists to force the send first. The go-to-market call he locked Jul 21: websites, warm and DJ-adjacent contacts first (the lane that already converts: $800 banked, a $2,500 quote live, an Aug 24 kickoff booked), an AI-run cold machine second.
The money doctrine, his call Jul 21. The wall is PERSONAL debts only, friends and family, zero by Oct 10. Credit cards get settled for less where offered or minimums otherwise, no guilt; the credit score is explicitly not a goal. This is a deliberate narrowing, not denial: it makes the wall finite and winnable.
Topic 2 · Karla, and the Jul 27 decision
Ended Jul 14 after the third jealousy-trigger fight (Jun 2, Jul 5, Jul 14, same Instagram trigger each time). He has held zero contact for 8 days, the longest deliberate hold in the whole arc. New since the last brief: SHE broke the silence, twice, and both went unanswered. Her birthday, Sunday Jul 27, is the live decision, and he is bringing it to Friday's session to shape.
Jul 27 decision (her birthday): his to make, shaped in Friday's session
Her reach-outs, both unanswered: a missed video call Jul 17, then a missed call plus three texts Jul 19: "Hi Sean how are you?" / "Could it be possible to have a short call?" / "I would like to tell you something." No content in any of them, and he did not reply.
His current lean (Jul 21): flowers plus a DM on her birthday. This is a change from the silence he pre-committed to on Jul 14, and he knows it; that is exactly why he is bringing the form to you before anything is ordered or sent. Nothing is bought, nothing is arranged, nothing moves before Friday.
The 4 questions he's bringing you
Is the flowers-plus-DM lean the wound or the strategy? His own test still stands: would he still want to send it if he knew it worked but she never told him so?
Her two reach-outs came AFTER five days of his silence. What does that change about what a birthday gesture would actually be doing, for him and for her?
The jealousy trigger, his own and untreated, 3 for 3 as the detonator. Is the real Jul 27-week risk what he sends, or his reaction to whatever she posts that night?
(Standing) Oct 10 means landing back in her city. What's the frame for that, whatever state Jul 27 leaves the door in?
If she reaches again before Friday: same play as the last two, nothing at night, screenshots saved for the session, any reply shaped in the room. Per the v3 protocol, a contact attempt outside the plan routes to you as witness, and any reset only happens if he and you agree it helps.
Topic 3 · Body & the night gate
Night gate v3: lights 4:00am, up by 12:00, stepping down 30 minutes per held week toward roughly 2-3am by late August. The phone stays with him (grayscale plus app timers, no dock, his call). Games are earned after the send, 2 hours base. Gig nights get their own variant (lights within 45 minutes of home, wake within 8.5 hours) so a paid 1am gig never reads as a broken night.
Where it starts from, honestly. Nights have been running to 5-6am on games and feeds, mornings starting near 1pm. The old 2am target was aspiration, not reality, and it never held once; v3 starts the gate where he actually is and earns its way down. His framing: the standard was decided in daylight, so 2am Sean does not get a vote.
Movement, on his terms. 4-5k steps daily plus gym 4-5x a week around 2pm. Walks-as-homework and bodyweight fallbacks are out by his call ("walks are cringe"); steps are auto-counted so there is nothing to self-report. Gig days and red recovery days are skipped by design.
Can't sleep rule. Paper or nothing; screens-off is the rule, not sleep-on-command. A grief wave gets one 60-second voice note at the desk, then bed; it is not a message draft.
Session agenda: next session (his proposal)
Next session: Friday Jul 24, 11:00am
His proposal, headline first. A pacing guide you run, not a script.
HEADLINEThe Jul 27 form. His lean is flowers plus a DM; her two unanswered reach-outs and his 4 questions are in the block above. Shaped in the room, in daylight, before anything is ordered.
THENThe fear and exposure work. The loop's engine ("if I show up as myself and I'm not enough, I'll be left") and the daily send as the exposure rep. How the first days of v3 actually went.
STANDINGThe scoreboard, the jealousy trigger, and Oct 10. The 6-box day and whether it is holding; the trigger is his and untreated; the return to her city is on the calendar either way.
Leave Sean a note
Anything between sessions, a reflection, a piece of homework, a nudge. It's emailed to Sean so it reaches his inbox.